Successful people aren’t the ones who never fail, but those who never give up no matter how many times they encounter failures. That only means having a success mindset will put you into the right perspective.
Today’s topic will be a little different from what I usually talk about. I want to share a special message because a lot of people all over the world right now are going through the wringer.
I mean, you turn on social media, you turn on the TV or the news, it doesn’t matter what you’re listening to or watching. Almost every medium of communication is broadcasting some type of adversity, barrier, or fear.
So what I wanted to do was share something that I think could help somebody out there, including real estate agents, lead a successful life.
A lot of people ask me how I am continuously overcoming the adversities and challenges that I’ve been through and I would like to consider that my story is probably one that many people would break from.
I always say that it comes back to a story I once heard from my mentor. He said, “You know, we all grew up surrounded by people, we have our family, our friends. A lot of the time, they’re on the same day-to-day path as we are right?”
Let’s take my story as an example. I grew up on the south side of Chicago; whether you want to call it poverty or whatever it was, that environment was all we knew and saw.
We didn’t take family trips, but nobody in the neighborhood was taking family trips. So we thought that that was the norm. Right?
All my friends felt like they had the same journey, path, and circumstances that I did. So when you look at it, why did some people take the right or left road?
When I think about my case, how have I continuously taken the road that led me to better my family, that’s led me to optimism?
That’s led me to continue to dream, to continue to try to inspire somebody else to continue to build businesses. I think it boils down to the story and three questions.
Here’s how the story goes,
“Two boys grew up in the same household. Their dad was an alcoholic and abusive too. He was something like a rolling stone when he came into their lives. He was both physically and verbally abusive.
They both went to high school, but one got deep into drugs while the other got into sports. The one in sports wound up becoming a doctor, the other eventually wound up as a convicted felon. Later on, they both got interviewed, and they were asked the same question, ‘Why did you take this path?’
One used it as a crutch and excuse and said, “Well, what do you expect, you know? My dad was an abuser. My dad did drugs. He was never around to give me stability and discipline.”
They asked the other brother, and he said, “Well, what did you expect? My dad was an abuser. My dad was never around. But I knew that that was not what I wanted my life to be like.”
The same situation, same environment, the same circumstance, but with two different outcomes.
Question Number One: Who Am I Allowing Myself To Be Surrounded By
Your environment is everything, right? Whether you’re in real estate, customer service, or insurance. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing. If you look at your day-to-day, whoever you’re spending the most time with would be the people who consume most of your energy.
Think about it. We all want to be socially acceptable. Regardless of whether you’re a Republican, Democrat, Liberal or Conservative, Anti-vaccine or Pro-vaccine. It doesn’t matter; we all want to be socially accepted somehow or another.
So the people you’re around are the ones who mostly have the same beliefs as you. You’re also most likely taking the same actions they’re taking. It doesn’t have to be physical; it could be mental.
Ask yourself, are those people who you want to be in five years? Do they have the same trajectory? Do they have the same Northstar as you?
We all might come from the same place, but not everyone is the same in terms of dreams and goals. What happens if their goals don’t align with your values, missions, or principles?
Are you going to get to a life where you will find fulfillment and true happiness? If not, it’s because you’re allowing yourself to be surrounded by people who suck your energy, right? You second guess every decision that you make.
Do you want to go to that party? Do you want to go to that gathering? If you’re not building yourself up, then clearly, you’re tearing yourself down.
Question Number Two: What Are They Teaching You?
This goes deeper into part of number one. Are they teaching you that doing business is okay? Do they teach you that ownership is okay?
Think about it. Do you exert effort to take actions of some sort? Now we know that you can’t run other people’s races.
Are they encouraging you, challenging you, and supporting you to take those actions? If they’re not, you have to ask yourself, “What are they teaching me?” The reason is we’re all teaching someone something.
We’re teaching people how to treat us. What can I take away from this? How would this help me in the next three, five, or ten years? More importantly, how will this help me in the next three months?
Question Number Three: How Does This Make Me Feel?
This is very important. We’ve always heard about affirmations, but what exactly do they mean?
Let’s use the Law of Attraction. We say what you think about is what you can achieve, right? What you can see is what you can achieve.
Well, there’s a whole other level to this.
First thing, you have to see it. Then seize it. Lastly, you have to feel yourself having it because that allows us to stay motivated or inspired.
You also need discipline because you’re not always going to feel like doing something. You’re not always going to feel like prospecting. You’re not always going to like your daily schedule – getting up and going to that job.
You have to ask yourself, “Is this pulling me towards what I want or is it pulling me away from what I want?
If it’s pulling you towards something, that means that it’s an inspiration. If the opposite is true, you have to ask yourself if that’s the feeling you really want.
As I Wind Up…
These three success mindset questions have been essential for me at every stage of my life.
I’ve continued to evaluate my life because at the end of the day people care what actions you take.
You need an environment that’s continuously allowing you to grow, develop new skills, and achieve goals you set for yourself.
Hopefully, those powerful questions will do the same for you and help you discover, if not create, new paths to success.
If you have any questions or would like to chat more about real estate, please drop me a message on my socials.
Remember, in the dream, we trust, but you have to take action. Otherwise, it will merely be a fantasy.